Last Parade

December 9th, 2017 No comments

By Matthew Good. 2009 release.
Listening to the song…heart pounding, mind racing. Alive. So alive.

My daughter born. Highest I’ve ever been in my life.

What happened? I’m begging you…just tell me what happened to that time?

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne

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Feed The Kid!

November 26th, 2017 No comments

Recently, my X-wife, my daughter and I took a road trip from San Diego to Las Vegas. It’s almost a 5 hour drive so lots of time to listen to music, chat and gaze at the scenery, especially those desert infused Nevada mountains.

When we got there, Sin City was it’s usual self; gaudy, affluent and bustling (even during the off season).

We checked into our hotel, got our room and made a break for the pool (the only place to be).

On the second day my X-wife made dinner reservations at Lago in the Bellagio – an upscale little place with a view of the spraying fountains. Long story short, we sat at our table, made some chit chat and placed our dinner order. In the middle of the order, we got our daughter this petite margarita pizza off the menu. A bit abruptly, the waiter replied “Right, feed the kid!”

Is it just me or does that comment seem a tad inappropriate? Like feeding the kid is unimportant, overrated and the money would be better spent gambling in their pristine rug laden casino (I.e. – the blackjack table). Side note, they’d be better off offering Spanish 21 tables in replacement of the traditional blackjack.

Anyway, just thought I’d share what some of the Vegas waiters are uttering in their establishments. And yes, I think we should feed the kid! She’s hungry for god sake’s! At least most of the time…

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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Who Would Want This?

October 16th, 2017 No comments

So you drive north to a cottage in the seclusion of nature. You stop at the same burger joint half way up and order a burger, fries and a drink. You cut across the same highway to get to another highway and continue going north.

You get there. When you arrive everything is perfect. The entire cottage is perfect. The grounds are perfect. All of the belongings are neatly placed around the property like no one has ever touched them.

You take a deep breath in and have a detailed look around. All there is is silence. And in that same moment you realize that you are there completely by yourself with no one. There is no one there to share it with. You take another look around and all you see is bare property and a still lake.

You take another deep breath in and ask yourself “Who Would Want This?”

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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Don’t Over-complicate Food

September 13th, 2017 No comments

Celery, hummus, olives, blue cheese, cashews, light crackers, fruit (strawberries and pineapple), peppers, mixed greens, avocado…these are just a few foods you can eat to make a stride toward a balanced diet and a healthier lifestyle. There doesn’t have to be any magic in the preparation of food. You can eat these foods nibble by nibble and savor every bite with very little effort. You don’t have to drizzle this or drizzle that.

Not every meal has to have fancy sauces and exotic herbs. Mind you, if you’re at Jake’s in Del Mar, California you just have to try the ‘Seafood Pot’. My God! The saffron! But aside for Jake’s and the exquisite chefs there, you don’t need to over-complicate things. Just keep it simple. Buy simple groceries. Don’t waste too much money on food. It isn’t worth it.

I’m not saying to starve yourself but eat in moderation. Take a handful of this and a handful of that and keep on going with you day. Simple.

What’s your slant on food? I’d love to know.

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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You Could Start By Caring

July 17th, 2017 No comments

Why the title of this post? I thought it fitting. It seems so many of us now just end up saying (after all is said and done) that “I don’t care”. After all, we just want to talk about our lives and want everyone to know what is going on in our lives. The little guy doesn’t matter anymore and so many of us seem now to be obsessed with glamour, fame and the limelight.

We put our families and loved ones on showcase on Facebook and just want to collect as many likes and comments as possible. Our retorts and quips are superficial and there is no real connection at all. It’s safer. We hold as many people as possible at arm’s length and aren’t really that concerned as to what is going on in their lives.

So I say that “We or you could start by caring”. You could actually care that I am not happy and ultimately disappointed with my life and how it has evolved. You could care that my nuclear family is broken and we don’t get the happily ever after.

But I’m just complaining now. I should have had a better plan. I should have made the right connections and discovered the right relationships. It would have resulted in a lucrative and illustrious career that provided for my family and put me up on a pedestal in the eyes of society. We would have had it all.

This ultimate personal failing or failure is probably why I sometimes say in my head that “I don’t care!” I don’t care about anything and I just want what I’m entitled to. But I should care and I could start by caring because other people’s lives are important. What they are doing on a daily basis is worthwhile. It means something.

I try to care but sometimes my mind shifts so much the other way and I just want to give in.

You or I could start by caring.

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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We Went Down That Road

February 4th, 2017 No comments

And saw some pretty spectacular things.
We weren’t sure where the road was leading to but we thought for sure that we would see something different, and we did.

So much of life seems to revolve around what road you are going to attempt to travel down if you choose a road at all. On the road of your choice there will be excitements, perils, uncertainties and the like. How you deal with all of them will ultimately define you and who you are becoming.

Along the way you’ll probably meet people and they will shape who you are as well. They will say things that may impact you and they will do things that may alter the course or trajectory of your life. Fellow travelers wandering around trying to figure out life in just the same way you are. At times the road may become very bumpy and hopefully during these times you will find someone loved or close to you to hold onto to share the experience. Experiencing turbulence alone can be a very unsettling experience but sometimes we are left to grin and bear it on our own, tempering our soul.

Yes, we went down that road and we were scared. We didn’t know what dangers lie ahead but we were determined to forge on and take on the day ahead of us. We had each other. We had the world. We were having the time of our lives. The daylight seemed endless. The road, endless. All we really had was our excitement and our smiles. Our hearts beat. Our hearts pounded. We savored every moment. Would the day ever end? It didn’t seem so but we found our cabin at the bottom of the canyon and I tried to sleep. Water crept to the edge of my eyes as I thought about our day together – our life.

If I had to wake up and do it all over again would I do anything differently? I don’t think so.

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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Everyone’s An Expert

January 28th, 2017 1 comment

It is becoming clearer and clearer that no matter where you go and who you talk with everyone is an expert. Fewer and fewer people seem to have the inclination to ask questions of other people to figure out what is in their mind or on their mind. Even those with a paucity of a formal education seem to have an informed opinion on just about any topic.

Now this may not come as a shock with all of the social media devices and the explosion of information sharing. Wherever you surf on the internet there is a website that is going to tell you something new about any given topic. Information is readily at your disposal and everyone is a student even if they’re not enrolled at an institution. Everyone is up to date with the latest news and can carry on a conversation at length about anything.

But where does this leave us? Millions of people wandering around going about their day no longer willing to ask any questions of fellow human beings? Experts at every corner that can’t really give us any deep meaningful information about anything. So many of us just skimming the surface to pretend like we know what we are talking about without really caring about the important details.

It’s a new age and and a new era; that’s for sure. But yet even with this reality, most people seem to be walking around peacefully going about their day. At least this is my personal experience in suburbia Southern Ontario. Is this just the calm before the storm? Is everyone just in a phase where they have all their emotional interactive frustrations pent up and everyone’s just not saying anything? I don’t know. It’s hard to get a gauge on the social landscape when you have minimal interactions on a daily basis (i.e.- walking into the local coffee shop, walking into the local gym and going to the local grocery store). I’m really not part of any corporation so I’m unaware of how severe the corporate pressures are and how they effect families and society as a whole.

Sometimes the social landscape feels a little off and you begin to wonder how genuine people are, what they’re not telling you or what they’re withholding to prevent real conversation. As a result, everyone sticks to safe topics and we don’t really connect on any real level, especially romantically but that’s a whole other different can of worms.

Yet the fact remains, we all seem to now being sauntering around as brilliant experts on everything. No one can tell us anything anymore because we already know and we don’t want to hear it. Perhaps this is the new reality – we just don’t want to hear it because we already know because the internet or Google told us and we just don’t have time. The funny thing is though is that we do have time because all of us seem to be wasting it on the devices in our hand. Everyone just stares in a downward direction. It’s actually quite funny. We’re utterly addicted and we don’t care. A bunch of addicts walking around the streets thinking we know everything. It’s actually quite pathetic. When I can I’m going to encourage my daughter to put down her device and focus on her school work, music or something else that would be considered academic. I’m going to encourage her to soak up as much new information as possible because this will bolster neuroplasticity or the formation of new neural pathways.

Yes, I want my daughter’s future to be bright but I recognize that she may one day wander off the good path and indulge in behaviors that may or may not be detrimental to her life. But I would hope that somehow she one day becomes an expert in a given field and can share her thoughts and ideas with fellow people; whoever might be in her social net.

Then again, everyone it would seem is already an expert and we have to deal with this reality and realize that it is creating social problems and how we relate to each other. In essence, we may be unknowingly limiting ourselves and not setting our sights as high as they could be.

I encourage you to think on this topic and how you could potentially modify your interactive behavior(s).

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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America, Land Of The Ultra-Wealthy & The Poverty Stricken

January 21st, 2017 1 comment

I don’t think it can be any more starkly clear as it is today with respect to the growing gap and disparity between those that have and those that do not. We’re talking here about the divide between the ultra-wealthy and the impoverished in America. How do we expect this problem to go away when we have no viable solutions in sight?

The politicians, higher-ups and ruling class talk about the eventual redistribution of wealth and ‘hope’ for those that fight the continual battle of poverty and when that means every day they wake up and get out of bed. Violent crime, lack of accommodations, drugs at every corner, the list goes on and on and it isn’t getting any easier for those that are stuck under the thumb of the ruling class.

And then there is all this talk about new jobs and bringing the jobs back to America. What do they plan to do? The U.S. unemployment rate is already hovering in that perfect and time-tested zone of 5%. That supposedly is when the behemoth economy is operating at its optimal levels and really no more jobs are in sight. But somehow more unskilled workers are going to be hired above and beyond the 5% unemployment rate. How do poor people with no education and no skills fill these imaginary jobs? This is part of the reason as to why I have a problem with the Trump campaign. It doesn’t take into account planned obsolescence and the cyclical nature of employment. It gives false hope and there is something inherently wrong with that. I’m not saying give up before we even begin but there is something very shady about promising more jobs when there may very well be no more jobs in sight.

So will the rich just continue to get richer and not share in the bountiful spoils? I hesitate to say yes this will be the case because that will spell doom for so many others. There has to be a reason those that have less get out of bed in the morning. Sure, we all want to survive and have a roof over our heads. We all want to eat and try to sleep soundly. We all want to satisfy and maintain the basic necessities of life. There is so much we all want to achieve but how do we begin to reach for these goals when they seem so far away and possibly out of reach?

Do we just pick up the phone a call a wealthy person and their family to see if they will share with us freely without a trace of bitterness? Do we shed tears to a wealthy person in the hope that they will be merciful and take us under their wing? Or do we hold on tightly to our pride, bite our lip and go back to the mundane job that we don’t care about? I don’t profess to have all of the answers and I certainly don’t know what path to take here but there has got to be a way to increase our position, to increase our standing without diminishing the status of the wealthy person we may seek to resemble. Besides, why would a wealthy person ever want to part with any of their wealth to increase the standing of a poor person? Supposedly the wealthy person has worked very hard for what they have and the thought of parting with any of it is absolutely heart-wrenching.

And so the hoarding, mine-it’s-all-mine continues. They go to bed peacefully with all their stuff and don’t feel a trace of the guilt. The night is quiet. The night is still and tomorrow is another day for them to increase their wealthy standing and not really worry about what is happening in the life of a poor man, a poor woman or a poor family. The cycle never ends and the pressure to give back is always on the back of those that have more.

But where is the savior? Where is the solace? For the poor, supposedly salvation lies in the heavens and the heavens are theirs according to the traditions and words of the Presidential inauguration. But what are these speeches and words of wisdom really saying? Are the heavens the solace for the poor because they may or may not live? Is that what they’re really saying? If it is, I can’t say that I favor the heavens very much and I don’t want that brilliant pillar of light coming for me anytime soon. Some days because of my existential suffering I might pray that that pillar of light finds me but generally I am healed by the gift of creation and the relief that provides for all the suffering I feel I endure.

Nonetheless, the disparity remains. The daily grind an ever present reality. When will the tide turn? When will the wealthy give freely and offer to those that have less without worry that the money will be improperly used?

Are those that have less deserving? Are those that have less destined to live a life a poverty?

There are so many questions to ask and so little time to answer them.

I’m not sure if America has it right. Supposedly they are the greatest country of the free world and lead the free world. But the fact and reality remain, the disparity is great. Perhaps too great…

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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Everything Will Be Perfect

January 8th, 2017 1 comment

If everyone wakes up early enough to focus on various tasks.
If everyone is soft enough with each other interactively.

If we agree that the goods and services you are producing are worth purchasing.
If we agree that this is about you and it is also about me.
If we can find a way to stop global suffering on so many different levels.

If, if, if. What conditions can you dream up that will help make this world a more perfect place?

Will everything be perfect tomorrow? Likely (and figuratively speaking). But you may not feel perfect.

How will you find a way to feel more perfect in the world around you?

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-2241

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I Need To Be In Motion

January 1st, 2017 No comments

To avoid lying in bed all day.
To feel the comfort of the wheels moving on the pavement.

To soothe the aching of my being.

Motion heals. It takes the mind away from distracting and painful thoughts.
It makes the mind thoughtless as you drive in a straight line and make all the necessary turns to find the perpendicular road.

I need to be in motion to try and avoid suffering. A suffering I cannot explain that is there.

How much will your words matter? Try to make them count. Try to make them sync with the contact of your eyes and let them flow with the movement of your arms. Try to find someone that will listen and care. There are so many people out there that just laugh it off and don’t really listen. Those people have checked out or have an energy about them that does not have the capacity to internalize what you are saying. It’s not there fault. They may have endured to much stress and cannot take in anymore. It’s a physiological thing.

I seek out motion. The movement thwarts the rumination.

It’d be great to hear from you,

Matthew R. Polkinghorne
289-208-22141

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